What kind of people are you surrounding yourself with? Who do you hang with? The people you hang around can have a huge impact on how you see yourself as a person and how you
What kind of people are you surrounding yourself with? Who do you hang with? The people you hang around can have a huge impact on how you see yourself as a person and how you feel. What I mean by this is if you are hanging around people that are always complaining or always negative about everything, it’s highly likely you will be the same way. We are who we hang with, remember that!
Sometimes we have to take a step back and analyze our life and why it could be going the opposite way of what we want. We are responsible for our own lives, it’s up to us to make the changes necessary to live a better life. We have to do things intentionally to live a more positive life and become more happy.
If we have addiction issues and want to overcome our addiction then we would have to stop hanging out with our “friends” that we use with. I say “friends” this way because I myself do not believe their our friends the majority of the time. I used to have addiction problems and I had so many “friends,” when I quit using, them friends were gone. We no longer had anything in common. If I were to hang out with these people again I know I would most likely go backwards and start using again.
I am okay with a small circle of friends now because the ones I do have are of value to me. I look up to them and I can trust them. I guess you can say I matured. Back to addictions, I’m not saying I don’t have any addictions now because I believe I do but it isn’t drugs or alcohol. I’m addicted to relationships and have been working on this for awhile now. I used to hate being alone so after one relationship would end I would jump into another because I did not want to be alone. I wanted “love” and attention but while I was seeking this so called love I was attracting all of the wrong people in the process. It’s now been quite awhile since I’ve been in a relationship and I have grown to be okay with being alone now. If I happen to meet someone along the way one day then so be it but I no longer feel that I need to be in a relationship to be okay.
I am learning to be happy within now rather than seeking happiness from other people. I’ve learned if we are always seeking others to make us happy then we will always become disappointed in the long run. We are responsible for our own happiness and once we can realize this life will start getting better for us because we begin to learn what areas we should be working on within ourselves. Nobody is responsible for how we feel except us. People may bring us down or cause us to feel low self esteem but it would be our fault that we allowed them to cause us to feel this way. We do not need to allow it, we can set boundaries. I’ve had to learn all of this myself. This is all good reason to why I wanted to create this blog.
Not all people that have suffered from addiction may need to stay away from their “friends” that are using by the way. Some people may be capable of putting themselves in situations and having self control over themselves but I know for myself and many others we can not be in this environment if we want to stay clean. Choose your friends wisely.
Sometimes people do things they don’t normally do or they put up with more than they normally would just because they don’t want to be alone or perhaps they feel they may lose the “friend” they are hanging around. This is a sign of codependency.